Hi, I'm Steph Terry. And I'm a recovering People Pleaser😆 Before the skills, I was an Olympic-level over-functioner. Weekends, vacations, holidays… if there wasn't structure, I became the cruise director, emotional manager, snack coordinator, activity planner, and low-key martyr. I thought I was helping. Really, I was running around on everyone else's paper, trying to make sure nobody was disappointed, bored, hungry, or frustrated. No wonder I was exhausted. I wasn't just ca

Here’s a question that completely wrecked me (in the best way): Am I protecting myself… or am I punishing my husband? Yikes. When we’ve been hurt, protecting ourselves feels like the obvious choice. We zip it up, lock it down, and promise ourselves we’ll never feel that kind of pain again. No more leaning in. No more flirting. No more vulnerability. No more risking rejection. Makes sense, right? Except… I realized something. Sometimes my “protection” wasn’t actually protectin

When someone asks how you’re doing, do you have an automatic “I’m fine” response too? Y’all know the acronym for FINE, right? F – Frazzled I – Irritated N – Nervous E – Exhausted Or my personal favorite: FINE = Fuming Inside + Nice Exterior 😏 Want to know what creates intimacy faster than a perfectly planned date night, a sexy new bra, or another exhausting “communication talk”? Vulnerability. Not oversharing. Not emotional dumping. Not a three-hour relationship summit at 1

... it's the everyday sparks that keep you feeling like soulmates instead of roommates. Want to spice it up and get back into girlfriend mode? Let's Go

Say, "I Hear You." You don't have to agree or disagree. Just listen instead of fixing, helping, teaching or telling your partner what to do. Creating emotional safety leads to more intimacy both ouirresistible tside and inside the bedroom. Be Vulnerable. Reveal the less-than-perfect parts of you. I told my husband I was intimidated to take our kids backpacking without him. He jumped up to help me set up the tent in our backyard and pratice using the jet boil stove. I feel mo

Resolution: A firm decision to do or not do something. Sounds easy, right? Then why have I failed and been disappointed by the middle of January the past ten years? Here's what I've discovered using The Six Intimacy Skills as a guide: Don't dumpster fire the rest of the year!!! In the past I have put all my eggs in one basket. The one marked "Next Year is Your Year!" Around Thanksgiving I would scroll social media and ❤️ all the beautiful changes I would make STARTING in Janu

1. Self Care: Taking responsibility for your own happiness. Treating yourself well ups your tolerance level and patience. It gives you the reserves to show up fun and playful so you can actually have something to contribute to your relationship verses the old burnout. Self care may be social, physical, spiritual and the list goes on. Be creative here, think outside the box and experiment with what makes you smile in the moment (e.g. dancing, mountain biking, cat videos, jumpi