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You can love your husband and still have days when you wonder if you even like him. Before you decide the spark is gone, try getting off his paper, putting that energy back into you, and widening the lens.

A client recently asked me, "I'm motivated to be the Girl of Fun and Light (GOFL)... but how?" I smiled because I remember wondering the exact same thing! Here's how I've come to understand it... A GOFL isn't pretending life is easy or forcing herself to be bubbly. She's protecting her joy. She doesn't wait for life, her husband, or her circumstances to hand over her happiness. She creates small, medium, and XL moments of delight. She follows what lights her up. She builds a

For years, I thought being the best wife meant doing more. More helping. More sacrificing. More accommodating. More managing. More giving. Then one day I bought almost $200 worth of flowers💐 And strangely enough, it made me a better wife. A few years ago, I would have stood in the checkout line doing mental gymnastics. This is excessive. I should save the money. This isn’t practical. I don’t need this many flowers. But standing there today, I noticed something had changed. T

You’ve heard of personal hygiene but what about energy hygiene? If you’re anything like me— a woman holding space for kids, clients, friends, fur babies, a marriage, and your own wild and beautiful life, you know what it feels like to carry more than just your own to-dos. We pick up people’s moods, expectations, tension, and sometimes even their anxiety. It’s like our nervous systems are sponges disguised as skin. That’s where energy hygiene comes in. And once you understand

Maybe self care isn't about more, maybe it's about the right kind. Some of these will feel fun, some might make you roll your eyes. If it feels like a stretch, skip it. Or... lean in and see how you feel✨ What's the best thing that could happen if you stopped escaping your life and started actually enjoying it? 👑 SELF CARE SAMPLE MENU 👑 🌿 Creative Self Care | Play in imagination. Spray paint furniture. Pick up the ukulele. Sketch caricatures on YouTube. Experiment in a dar

Are you convinced your husband doesn't care about you? Ouch! But you wouldn't have picked a total jerk, you're too smart for that.

When I stepped back, my husband finally had the opportunity to step up, be my hero and feel successful in our marriage.

1. Self Care: Taking responsibility for your own happiness. Treating yourself well ups your tolerance level and patience. It gives you the reserves to show up fun and playful so you can actually have something to contribute to your relationship verses the old burnout. Self care may be social, physical, spiritual and the list goes on. Be creative here, think outside the box and experiment with what makes you smile in the moment (e.g. dancing, mountain biking, cat videos, jumpi

BUSTED!!!! I resisted Self Care when I began my journey with The Six Intimacy Skills. Self Care is the first skill and foundation for this proven practice but… I knew better. If I just checked all the boxes on my list for the day, then I would have time for myself. I was literally on the bottom of my To Do list. I was my very last priority. I’ve heard time and time again that Self Care means putting my oxygen mask on first. This felt counterintuitive. Instinctively I will he