How to be the BEST Wife💥

For years, I thought being the best wife meant doing more.

More helping. More sacrificing. More accommodating. More managing. More giving.

Then one day I bought almost $200 worth of flowers💐

And strangely enough, it made me a better wife.

A few years ago, I would have stood in the checkout line doing mental gymnastics.

This is excessive. I should save the money. This isn’t practical. I don’t need this many flowers.

But standing there today, I noticed something had changed.

The flowers weren’t really the point.

The point was that I wanted them. They made me happy.

For once, I wasn’t interested in talking myself out of joy.

For years I thought my job was to be a good woman, wife, mom, employee, friend, sister, daughter...

Those aren’t bad things. But somewhere along the way, I started treating my own happiness like it was optional.

I told myself I’d enjoy life more after the work was done, after the kids were in bed, after the finances were better, after I got everything else under control.

What I didn’t realize was that I was putting my joy on layaway.

Waiting for a future version of my life to give me permission to enjoy it.

The game changed when I stopped asking, “How can I be better?” and started asking, “What actually brings me joy?” 🧲

What makes me feel calm, grounded, centered, relaxed, and fully alive?

Somewhere between being productive, responsible, and everything-for-everyone, I lost myself.

Yep. I went missing for a bit.

Can you relate?

I found myself in those questions.

I started paying attention to the things that genuinely nourished me. Sometimes it’s a mountain bike ride. Sometimes it’s hot springs with my girlfriends. Sometimes it’s SLEEEEEEEP. Sometimes it's hiking with a pocket full of candy alongside my family and fur babies.

And sometimes it’s an embarrassing amount of flowers🤣

What surprised me most is that focusing on my happiness didn’t make me less loving. It made me more loving.

When I feel nourished, I’m more patient with my kids. More playful with my husband. More generous with everyone around me.

The old version of me worried that prioritizing my happiness was selfish.

The woman I am today knows that joy is one of the most generous gifts I can bring into a room💥

Because here’s what I’ve learned:

The best wife isn’t the woman who does the most.

She’s the woman who knows how to stay connected to her joy.

Turns out, the happiest wife was the best wife all along.

Bonus: My husband can't keep his hands off of me these days🔥

Challenge by Choice

The next time you catch yourself should-ing all over yourself, pause.

Flip the script.

Buy the flowers.

Leave the dishes in the sink and do cartwheels with your kids.

Take the nap.

Wear the dress (you know the one 😉).

Order the fancy coffee.

Say yes to the thing that makes you feel alive.

Because your joy doesn’t have to be earned. Joy is your birthright.

Life isn’t a dress rehearsal.

And the women who are the most alive aren’t waiting until everything is finished before they let themselves enjoy it.

This woman is begging to come out in you.

So…

What would bring you joy today?

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