How To Bring Back That Loving Feeling✨

Are you convinced your husband doesn't care about you? Ouch! But you wouldn't have picked a total jerk, you're too smart for that. Can you find 10 pieces of evidence that proves your partner has been thoughtful, tender, and kind at times in your relationship? I dare you!

Examples:

1. He carved a piece of wood with SJ + KT.

2. He met and vacationed with my whole family after 3 months of dating.

3. He holds my hand when I zigzag walk on busy sidewalks.

   
   

Is that icy exterior melting thinking about the guy you fell in love with? Keep stretching here!

Instead of putting all the blame on your partner, what has changed ABOUT YOU since you were in carefree girlfriend mode?

• Are you receptive? Are you please-able? Have you criticized your partner for buying flowers? They're too expensive, not the right ones, they're going to die anyways... knock it off and just say, Thank You.

• Are you respecting his judgement? Respect is like oxygen to men. Stop doubting and fixing, and start hearing and accepting him. Game changer.

• Are you giving your husband an opportunity to please you? Express your desires in a way that inspires. Ex: I would love to go camping this Summer, I would love a hot springs day, I would love to go biking tomorrow afternoon. Stop explaining why/how, keep "you" out of the desire, and no expectations ladies! Otherwise these desires will come across as a repelling demand.

• Have you stopped appreciating your husband? I get it, routine kicks in and gratitude can fall by the wayside. Bring back the gratitude and he will want to do more to please you. You can even use an example from the past and bring it into the now. Ex: I love when you packed my flip flops for post hike relief last Spring Break. I felt so taken care of. I actually did this recently and my husband made sure our kids and I had our crocs/flops after hiking to Crater Lake last weekend.

• Are you slow to be accountable when you step in it? Is there anything on your side of the street that you can clean up? Restoring the respect by apologizing is attractive. Saints are boring, it's all about progress not perfection.

• How's your self care? Life is busy! You know it, you live it! However, the sexiest thing I wear is a smile. My husband is attracted to happy me, and my happiness is my responsibility. Make putting your oxygen mask on your first priority. Bonus: My husband feels successful in our marriage when I am happy.

The headline here is getting back to the woman your husband fell in love with. Hint: He didn't fall in love with you because your house was decluttered and you were making bank at work. He fell for you, who you are, not what you do. I bet that irresistible woman is still in there.

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