The Feminine Art of Doing Less (+ Getting Much More Love💕)

If you’ve ever sighed, “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done,” this one’s for you, sister.

For years, I wore my busyness like a badge of honor. I had schedules with Post-it notes, honey-do lists, menus on the fridge, and endless tabs open in my brain. Meanwhile, my husband got the leftovers — just the crumbs of my time, attention, and very little patience.

One Saturday morning, while I was frantically scrubbing the cast iron before heading to soccer practice, my husband asked if I wanted to take the scenic route and see the fall colors.

I snapped, “I can’t! Look at this mess!”

He looked back and said, “I’d rather have you than the perfectly seasoned cast iron.”

Oof. Mic drop. Who knew my man could be so sweet?!

That was the day I decided to experiment with doing less. I stopped jumping in to fix, remind, and manage everything. I started trusting that maybe — just maybe — the world would keep spinning without my constant supervision.

And guess what? It did.

What surprised me most wasn’t just the calm that followed — it was how my husband started stepping up. He offered help, gave compliments, planned time for us. Now he cleans the cast iron after a Saturday-morning bacon fest. All the things I used to beg for showed up when I stopped striving and started receiving.

Doing less didn’t make me lazy. It made me magnetic. When we relax, we become irresistible. When we trust, our men rise. When we surrender, love flows✨

So if you’re exhausted from carrying it all — the kids, the laundry, the mental load, the marriage — consider this your permission slip: put the list down. Take a deep breath. Do less. Smile more.

The only way to make room for more love, more joy, more intimacy, is to let go and trust. What's the best thing that could happen?

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